August 26th

Best parents advice

New parents are always seeking advice, and we live in a society that thrives on their confusion. Psychologists, social workers, parenting coaches and classes abound, as well as books and DVDs on various methods of parenting. ADHD testing, special education, prescription drugs… our society provides everything to get those kids under control.

So much attention to how to deal with children, and not enough on how to deal with ourselves. We put so much energy on the kids, that we've forgotten that we, as parents, are naturally in charge! If we weren't, then we wouldn't be blessed with the ability to have kids. After all, we don't receive a training manual in the process.

I think the best advice is within you. Strive to be your best, and be the best role model your kid will ever have, so that he'll want to respect you and follow in your footsteps. Learn how to respect your partner. Create a family environment that kids will want to come home to, where they will thrive.

Parenting your kids starts with parenting yourself.

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Do your child cry? Good, because that's what children are supposed to do.

If your kid doesn't cry, then you should be worried.

There are different kinds of kids, and different types of crying. Most often, a child cries when sad, uncomfortable, hurt, or frustrated. What do you do? Maybe you've given your child candy or another distraction. This takes away the child's opportunity to become familiar with his emotions and accept that they are part of human nature. You wouldn't want your kid, down the road, to stuff his difficult feelings with food, alcohol, drugs, or sex. Let your kid cry it out, give him a hug, show some compassion, let him see you care.

Another kind of crying is manipulative crying. In this case, your child is trying to connect with you in an unhealthy way. You'll recognize an uncomfortable feeling inside, like you really pity him. If you see a pattern forming when each time he cries, you think "poor thing," then it may be best just to acknowledge his despair, then continue with what you are doing. He'll learn that he cannot connect with you in this way, and you'll see a difference in his behavior.

baby advice

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As new parents, we are anxious, wanting so much to give our child a great start in life. No matter whether we choose nursing or formula, brand-name clothes or hand-me-downs, the best baby advice is: Mom, take care of yourself.

Yes, that means you. Taking care of yourself means paying attention to your insides and outsides. Are you run down? Hire a babysitter while you take a nap. Need energy? Start eating right and taking supplements. Feeling post-partum depression? Try some of the many alternative treatments available.

Many mothers ignore their deep emotions as well. Unresolved emotional issues and childhood experiences, or unhealthy relationships with our own parents can influence the way we feel about our own motherhood. Seek out a professional, empathetic counselor or therapist.

When you take care of yourself, you can surely take care of those who count on you.

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